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It’s one thing to actually have aspergers.. and another to have it and do bad things and say it’s because of aspergers when it isn’t!

When most people think of someone with aspergers syndrome, they think of a boy or man, someone who is socially awkward, shy and reclusive. This simply is not always true. People also think of someone quiet and reserved. This is qute common, yet not always true either.

This blog post is about quiet vs loud people with aspergers. I know what you may be thinking… someone with aspergers syndrome can’t possibly be outgoing? Well, maybe. But being loud doesn’t always mean outgoing.

I am a loud aspie. I say things at the wrong time. I say the wrong things. I cut people off because I don’t know when to join into conversations. I also make a fool of myself on a regular basis while trying to be funny. Yikes!

For example, a quiet aspie will not join into a conversation, and would rather take the back seat. Perhaps not add an opinion out of fear of it being thought of as stupid, or simply being shy. But shy doesn’t aways equal aspie. You can have aspergers and be completely un shy, and completely socially inappropriate at the same time.

I mean when are you supposed to join into a conversation? I always try to join one at exactly the same time as someone else speaks. I blurt out stuff without thinking, and only when everyone laughs at me or looks at e strangely do I realise that what I have said is utterly stupid.

Worse yet, is when you blurt out something offensive, either not knowing it is, or trying to be funny. I am extremely guily of this. Extremely.

Being a loud aspie may make you seem like you’re the life of the party when everyone is drunk, but the fact you can’t just sit down and shut up in the work place or quiet social settings is a real pain.

I was shy as a kid. Then I grew out of it and over compensated for it. Maybe I am just trying to hard to fit in? Check out the following video I made on the issue for more information.

Cats…..It’s widely known that people with aspergers often love cats.
I’ll start with my own opinion – I have been obsessed with cats ever since I little I’ve still got cuddly cat toys too! (I had a lot when I was younger)

I’m not sure what drew me to them initially as a little girl, they were a very early obsession of mine.. getting to know a pet cat as a little kid opened me up to this cute little comforting life form.As I can only speak for myself, I have asked others on the specrum what they think of our sof pawwed friends.

The gentle rumble of a cats purr, the soft fur  the cuddly creature both two comforting things. I get a sense of relaxation and calmness from cats, it counteracts those opposite feelings of sensory overload and other stressful aspects of a stressful life which people with aspergers live with.

One member of an Aspergers message board says “I like cats because of their independence” Which is fair enough, as everyone, person and animal, needs it’s alone time.

Upon asking several other members, I came to the conclusion that a lot of aspies love them for the particular reasons that I stated, and because we feel we can relate to them..

A video of me about…… cats!

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