Crush/ Love interest stories.

[MissNewZealand]

I am currently interested in a classmate of mine. I am interested because he has connexions with a country I am interested in. So, I have developed a crush on him. I sent him a facebook message (not suggesting that I like him), as I am terrified of telling a guy when I like him, I sent him a message introducing myself, and asking him to tell me more about his country. Anyway: he told me to approach him in class, and he would tell me anything I'd like to know. I did, I actually let him do more of the speaking.

The entire time we were speaking, I kept getting this sense that he was in a hurry to get away from me.

BAD mistake: I sent my autism web page to him and other friends on facebook. After about a week, I asked him if he seen my page, and what he though about it. He lied to me and said He didnt check his facebook in three days. Now mind you: I sent him this page over a week ago. So when he checked his page, he probably saw it.
Since then, he stopped being friendly to me.

My friends speculate that he behaved this way because I "told" him I have Autism.

What do you all think?

I still cant get that out of my mind (yet another Aspie fixation.......getting to the bottom of what happened, and why he did what he did)

[Aaryk Noctivagus]

It could be because you told him about the Autism... especially since you suspect it, and knowing him even slightly, you're a better judge of that than any of us could be.

I was scared of telling a girl I was interested in her. So I wrote a riddle about it. She guessed various possible solutions to the riddle, but on the back of a sheet of paper she guessed the right answer. So, after some chasing around her bedsit, she confessed her final suggested answer... I told her it was correct... and she said 'that she only wanted to be friends'.

A few months later she and I were married. And last June, we celebrated our 20th Wedding Anniversary

[AspieNZ]

Why did she say she only wanted to be friends then?

[Elselia]

Ahahaha, Aaryk, that's so romantic!  I flat-out rejected my fiance the first time he asked me out, way back when...

EDIT: AspieNZ - because, even though girls usually mean what they say, sometimes they're shy and say things they don't mean.  Especially when they don't know themselves.

[Aaryk Noctivagus]

Why did she say she only wanted to be friends then?

Because, at that point, I had yet to convince her that she wanted to be more than simply friends

[Rocket]

Yeah, my gf had the opposite reaction when she found out. She said she didn't care (Oh yeah, she's a keeper).

[FrankSinatra]

BAD mistake: I sent my autism web page to him and other friends on facebook. After about a week, I asked him if he seen my page, and what he though about it. He lied to me and said He didnt check his facebook in three days. Now mind you: I sent him this page over a week ago. So when he checked his page, he probably saw it.
Since then, he stopped being friendly to me

To me this one of the most painful things about being on the spectrum, the stigma that surrounds. I keep the fact that I have autism well hidden until I have really gotten to know that person a long time. I really hate it. I feel like a homosexual in the closet.

[Elselia]

I was ranting to my fiance about how I'm sorry I'm routine-based/obsessive/childish/absentminded, everything really, and he said "I like that about you."  He's neurotypical, btw.

If we really believe what we tell other people, that people on the spectrum just have a different way of thinking, then it seems it shouldn't be like some great hidden secret.  It's in everything we do and think and say.  And that's the way we are, just like it's the way every other person in the entire world is.

We wouldn't tell them to change their personality, and we'd hope they wouldn't tell us to change ours either.  Well, you know, except where it was actually bothering them, in which case, when we eventually found out, we'd finally realise we didn't like them that much either if they were going to be so critical.

I ramble too much.  Sorry!

(I always say sorry after rambling because I know it's bad - but I'll probably still ramble for the rest of my life anyway.  1. Hope that's okay, and honestly, 2. I believe there are a lot of lonely people out there who wish they had someone to share their lives with, just as much as any of us, NT or otherwise.  So just be happy and be yourself I guess . )

[LoStNBrOkEn]

Yeah, my gf had the opposite reaction when she found out. She said she didn't care (Oh yeah, she's a keeper).

Umm my online relationship that I had with Zara was brillent!! I was in NZ and she was in Australia so it wasn't intense and we didnt have ta wrry bout seeing each other that option just wasnt there....But for the both of us it was good as it made as really happy and for me it gave me more confidence and it made me feel on top of the world how some1 as wonderful n understanding like her could come and change my whole life!! .....We got along like a house on fire we made times that we would be online just to spend quality time together  plus outside them times we would research what each other talked about she would research Aspergers and I would research EDS ( Ehlers-Danlos syndrome ) thats what Zara had so if u know about that u would know why we got along so well she was bullied at school n that never had freinds except for 1 (1 more then I had) but yeah ya get that huh!! We were even engaged she was going to come to NZ next month and we wouldve finally got to see each other all we had was pictures and emails! plus I used to webcam with her cose half the time I couldn't type cose of my bad circulation .... But unfortunately she got Leukemia and died  (sorry guys to go on about this but ive never had ne1 my whole entire life except for Zara)