Help plz

[theaspierunner]

Situation here that I can't let go 
Basically a few months ago I was getting close to this girl (I'll refer to her as asdf), and my mates kept telling me she liked me. Problem was, at that time, my ex (who has the "innocent" image pretty much because she has a problem with the way she walks) spread this bulls*** rumour that I'm a stalker. asdf then believed it, and the next day at school ran away when she saw me. I was quite pissed off, however after a few weeks she learnt that I'm not and we became friends. Problem is between those few weeks she managed to get a bf and still goes out with him. I can't let her go, and I still don't want to. 

[bittersweet]

Just be thankful your friends still. And get over the fact she's with someone else. Brooding about it just proving to everyone you have got some sort of stalker mentality. Your only young, plenty other lasses out there. so f*** it.

[theaspierunner]

Thanks, I appreciate it 

[bittersweet]

Nice one dude!

[dhpmathmusic]

I'm sorry to read of your loss, but remember - everything works out for the best in the end.  There are many other women out there.  This situation just didn't work out - but you have to let go of the idea that it will work out, or that will manifest itself into terrible behavior patterns and possible obsession (hmm...did that obsession work out for Captain Ahab and the whale? Let's just say that I hope Captain Ahab could breathe underwater...lol - thus the lesson of that book).  I'm very happy to read that you two are still friends.  It could be worse.  I hope for the best for you.

[Posh Peter]

Sorry to hear that. God will comfort you. I believe in God.

[lifepostepic]

Probably the smartest thing anyone ever told me about "obsessing"about a person is that you shouldn't try to deny the obsession, as there's a lesson there for us that be need to learn. Obsessions reveal something about us that we need to know and confront. So nevermind about the girl--obviously, if she believed that rumor, she's not half as great as you thought she was--but look at why you can't just let it go. Look at what you may had hoped would happen between you and girl, at the things you're longing for, or the things about her that made you think she was special to you. It will help you understand what you want and you're looking for, and if those things are healthy or not.

I've had many obsessions over guys--guys who were unavailable or guys who rejected me--and it's helped me grapple with what it is I yearn from. Right now I'm wrestling with an obsession over a crush that's soured once I realize the guy's a shallow snob. But even though I know that, I can't quite get over him completely. It's because he's smart, creative and has some common interests with me, and I have to confront my earning for romantic partner who is a "mindmate"--someone who can stimulate me intellectually. It's not so easy to cope with being lonely and feeling like you're unfulfilled in that area of your life, but recognizing WHY you're attracted to this or that person helps you move your mental focus off that specific person and onto the parts of your life you wish were happier, so you can work on them more constructively. In my case, I went and found a new online forum for people who share my interests and have been posting there a lot. Talking to other people who like what i like has helped me become less fixated on that guy I used to crush on. I'm not totally over him but at least I can resist peeking on his twitter stream now. It's progress. LOL.

[Aspergers Girl]

What a dick, doing that to you.

Glad you're friends though.

[bittersweet]

PMSL - "What a dick" . I love it fiona!

[MM]

Aspie runner teenagers are extremely immature(like we all were) So dont worry about the garbage they go on with at the moment, most will evolve into human being with in the next few years.

[booger25]

i feel for you.

a man by the name of DHPMATHMUSIC! who uses this server. and forum. failed to mention to me about something that happened to him as a child. and when i used to flirt with him, he seemed ok with it.

NOW! he tells me this thing happened and claimed i was harassing him! i ddidnt even know he felt uncomfortable in the first place! if he had told me, i wouldnt have gone as far as i did!!!!!

Now he's blocked me, and saying he's not my friend anymore, which really hurts.

if he had just said something in the first place... this would not have happened

[MM]

The painfully thing with aspergers booger is that you dont often know the ins and outs of socialising and whats appropriate and whats not.  I think it might be an idea to get a few books or start asking people about whats appropriate and whats not