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« on: July 03, 2010, 08:17:29 AM »

Are you worthy of love?

No, not everyone is worthy of it...that is where the problem arises. A selfish person...someone who puts their wants before the needs of others...is someone not worthy of love. Someone who dislikes himself is not ready for love. They are looking for someone to fix them...again, a selfish pursuit. ONLY when you truly love yourself (and you must respect yourself before you can love yourself), can you truly love another and earn their love. Without self respect, you will feel unworthy, and rightly so. They will see that you have no self respect and they will feel, that since you are chasing them, that you don't think they have self respect, and so, are a match...that is insulting...and they will rightly feel so. To have a good partner...you must be a good partner. Make yourself worthy of love, and confidence will rightly soar. Self esteem is not something you simply believe..or especially have a right to...you earn it.

Don't fall into the trap (for males), that you must be aggressive. Not in life and not in love. A partner wishing to be chased risks nothing and will wish for you (and only you) to put effort into the relationship forever. Assertion is putting forth your desire and acting naturally upon it...but without groveling...and certainly not without reciprocity from the partner. No one, worthy of love, respects aggression. It is assertion that people respect...and that is respectable.

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« Reply #1 on: July 03, 2010, 02:54:12 PM »

I value pleasure over love and want to find similar-minded people.   Cheesy
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« Reply #2 on: July 03, 2010, 03:05:01 PM »

I must say to you then...you have never experienced love.  Love of yourself....leads to love of another....leading to (birth and) love of your child...the greatest of pleasures.

Even romantic love will change your life and outlook upon it...for a lifetime.
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« Reply #3 on: July 03, 2010, 04:35:55 PM »

I must say to you then...you have never experienced love.  Love of yourself....leads to love of another....leading to (birth and) love of your child...the greatest of pleasures.

Even romantic love will change your life and outlook upon it...for a lifetime.



A girl said she loved me once and doted on me.  Then, because she wouldn't let me have sex with her (because she was religious - and wanted a husband, SICK) she started having lustful feelings towards other men and abandoned me!

So I learned to make the most of a girl while she still likes you!

My life's experience has been that women will always abandon me - sometimes from the very start, sometimes after teasing me for a little while first.

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« Reply #4 on: July 04, 2010, 11:07:39 AM »



A girl said she loved me once and doted on me.  Then, because she wouldn't let me have sex with her (because she was religious - and wanted a husband, SICK) she started having lustful feelings towards other men and abandoned me!

So I learned to make the most of a girl while she still likes you!

My life's experience has been that women will always abandon me - sometimes from the very start, sometimes after teasing me for a little while first.

 Undecided


I don't know if you realize the inherent conflict in your statement.  You must have meant something else...regardless....it is the errant conclusion you have established as your policy in future relationships that really needs to be looked at.  I don't know your age...but you sound very young.  You somehow equate sex with love.  Perhaps those women were looking for love and left (and rightfully so) when they realized all you wanted from them was sex .

When you experience true love for the first time...it will change your life forever.  Even the best love stories in the movies cannot capture the indescribable beauty of life forever after you have experienced true love.  As good as sex can be....it is nothing in comparison to love.  To chase sex as an end is to squander opportunity to find love.  With love...sex becomes something that is giving...you wish to please your partner out of love and caring...not to selfishly take only.

Get yourself the greatest love story in cinema...watch it...realize that it is even better in real life...make that one of your goals.  True love...not mere shallow sex as an end.
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« Reply #5 on: July 05, 2010, 01:08:23 AM »

But I'm not worthy of being loved, for various reasons, so I just want to start off small and work my way up.

It would be nice if a cute girl just liked me enough to give me a - hmm, to be polite - sexual experience of some sort.  Then maybe another girl, then another, then another.  Tongue  They don't have to love me, just like me enough for a bit of fun.   Wink
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« Reply #6 on: July 05, 2010, 02:20:15 AM »

But I'm not worthy of being loved, for various reasons, so I just want to start off small and work my way up.

It would be nice if a cute girl just liked me enough to give me a - hmm, to be polite - sexual experience of some sort.  Then maybe another girl, then another, then another.  Tongue  They don't have to love me, just like me enough for a bit of fun.   Wink
It sounds like you just want free hookers.
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« Reply #7 on: July 05, 2010, 07:46:45 AM »

It sounds like you just want free hookers.


Well, i'm a bit skint.   Undecided
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« Reply #8 on: July 11, 2010, 06:03:53 PM »

You guys...sheeesh  Roll Eyes

I think...I certainly hope you are kidding!
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