Bullying - Assertiveness vs. Aggressiveness...Good vs. Evil

[Shiroi Tora]

I've enjoyed bullies all my life....they are my favorite prey    . I've fought all my life...and won. Bullies rely on intimidation. I've always surprised the hell out of bullies. I am quiet by nature, and had been perceived as, sometimes, a target. I've bloodied many a nose, and twisted many a head.

Don't get me wrong, I am not aggressive. I am, however, assertive. By the way, many of my fights were in defense of others. I simply cannot stand bullies, especially when they pick on the innocent and kind hearted. Under no circumstance did I allow any special education student to be bullied. Neither should any one else.


War is not evil....it is the evil person's actions that sometimes makes war necessary. A war of assertion is good standing up to evil.

Violence is not wrong...it is sometimes necessary to stop aggression. It is unjustified violence that is evil.

Aggression is raiding your neighbor's yard.

Assertiveness is protecting one's yard...or your weaker neighbor's yard...from aggression.

It is not enough to be good...goodness requires bravery and strength. To turn your back...to pretend to not see an unjustified act is to enable evil.
One must speak out...take action against evil acts. To do less is cowardice...it is to throw your brothers to the lions.

Predators rely on the group not acting in unison. Sheep are herded by the lone aggressive dog...attacked by wolves...don't be the sheep...be the Shepherd...watch out for your brothers and sisters...the wolves will stay at bay....the more Shepherds...the stronger the group. Evil relies on cowardice to operate...in the face of opposition...they seek weaker prey.


They say that the majority of people are good.
That means evil is allowed to exist because otherwise good people do, and say, nothing.

It is not what is said by a person..so much as what is done. Their actions speak far more truly of their intent than what is expressed verbally.

A man must not only stand for good...he must prepare his body and mind for the inevitable battle against the aggressive...so he may protect his family, friends and the good and innocent...with assertiveness. It is simply good against evil.

[MM]

I have often been a cowards(that was until i worked that bullies themselves are the cowards ) but with my anger and my potential of black out snapping and other things such as being overweight I have tried to avoid this type of thing(often letting them bully me in at times just because I was outnumbered or outgun).  If all else fails doing martial arts or boxing always helps.  I do martial arts these days so I am getting more and more confident

[zenemu]

I don't think I have ever been bullied, not seriously anyway. I am fairly quiet for the most part, but I am quite confident too. I suppose that comes from constantly thinking and analyzing everything, which is something I learned at a young age, other people tend not to do.

I must admit though that I don't really understand the concept of bullying, it is completely alien to me. It seems to be life is pretty tough for everyone, we are all running the same race and OK some people may have less hurdles to jump than others, but why would you go out of your way to trip someone else up? Never understood it, I don't suppose I ever will.

[Remission]

They say that the majority of people are good.


lol

[zenemu]

They say that the majority of people are good.


lol

I've found most people are neither, they are often selfish and a little petty, but I have also found for the most part if you give them a chance most people are quite decent and left to their own devices they tend to do the right thing.

[Remission]

I've found most people are neither, they are often selfish and a little petty, but I have also found for the most part if you give them a chance most people are quite decent and left to their own devices they tend to do the right thing.

I think the whole concept of viewing people as 'good' or 'bad' is hopelessly naive.  They do what they need to do to survive.  There is nothing glorious or beautiful or angelic about anything we do.   

[MM]

A wise man once said love your neighbour as yourself

[Shiroi Tora]

I think the whole concept of viewing people as 'good' or 'bad' is hopelessly naive.  They do what they need to do to survive.  There is nothing glorious or beautiful or angelic about anything we do.   

Oh no..animals do what they need to survive.  Humans...unless brought down to basic survival needs...tend to move onward and upwards.  Progress would have been impossible had the world been as you described.  We control our fate...fate doesn't control us.  What we do in life that improves it...makes it more beautiful.  I have seen, as a whole, Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs played out in those I have met and what I have read and heard about by other means....over and over again.  It is a pattern that is rational and inspiring.  It, in one description of human and animal nature, provides, both, incentive and hope.  It is played out everyday in front of us...for those who take the care to think about it and see it.

[Remission]

Oh no..animals do what they need to survive.  Humans...unless brought down to basic survival needs...tend to move onward and upwards.  Progress would have been impossible had the world been as you described.  We control our fate...fate doesn't control us.  What we do in life that improves it...makes it more beautiful.  I have seen, as a whole, Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs played out in those I have met and what I have read and heard about by other means....over and over again.  It is a pattern that is rational and inspiring.  It, in one description of human and animal nature, provides, both, incentive and hope.  It is played out everyday in front of us...for those who take the care to think about it and see it.

I think you'll find that only a small percentage of humanity has been responsible for 'progress'.  Most of us just slog through and get on with it.  Go and look at all those drones in their offices. 

[Shiroi Tora]

If you are talking inventions....yes, you are correct.  If you are talking societal progress...then no.  There must be a betterment of generations to achieve...to progress.

A person is good or bad as a result of his actions and choices in life. 

Evil people do things to please themselves....regardless of the negative effect on the rights of others...often times to the detriment of others...they look to covet...they think themselves as predators...they bring down.  They usually need immediate gratification and their rewards must come from without...they are not internally happy.

Good people do things for pleasure in the long term...and they don't trample the rights of others...they look to build....they wish to raise the level of those around them.  They are the shepherds.  They practice deferred gratification...and their rewards come from within.

[John]

You should try reading a book called In Sheep's Clothing, by George Simon. It discusses different types of manipulative and bullying personalities. Quite an interesting read, if not a little paranoid at times.

[Shiroi Tora]

Believe me...I have looked into the eyes of pure evil (22+ yrs - Correctional Officer).  The worst types of offenders...no remorse...always trying to manipulate others...especially those who have no defense.  The worst crimes imaginable done to the most innocent...and a subculture that feeds on it. 

I've also experienced great goodness from others(before working as a Correctional Officer). 

However, the purity and innocence of my son is the greatest good I have seen in my life.