Do relationships tire you?

[Aspergers Girl]

Raltionships mean a lot more stress. Do any of you have problems coping in one? It's hard to get your own space. It would be a poor decision to get into one imo because I won't see the guy for weeks and not care.

Whats your stance on them?

[lotusblossom]

Im the same.

Ive not been in a relationship for seven years as the last one was so horrible. Ive tried to start a few relationships online but i found that just the presssure of writing emails and expecting emails caused to much stress and anxiety.

I find life happier and more relaxed when I am on my own and feel I can be myself. Where as when I am in a relationship I feel not so able to be myself and not liked for who i am and a pressure to change. I also feel a pressure to be loving in a way that is not natural for me.

I would not mind a relationship where I saw the person less than once a week and was totally accepted as I was. But Iam not sure that this is reasonable so I think it is better to stay on my own.

[Alex179]

They definitely do tire me.   I have a woman that I am talking to that lives on the other side of the US and she texts and/or calls me every day.   She is beautiful, funny and intelligent.   I just have so little time for my interests now.   She wants to talk via voice and cam chat online for hours every night (3 hours plus).   I can't say no to her easily, but I have to do school work.   She is a college student too and I wonder how she finds the time.   I do admit to enjoying conversing with her, but I have had no time for my hobbies/interests as of late.   She is very demanding of attention.

[Aaryk Noctivagus]

Relationships with RL friends can tire me.

Relationships with extended family tire me.

Relationships with my children are sometimes tiring, though I HATE to admit it because they are two of the most wonderful people I know.

My relationship with my wife, doesn't tire me. I find it liberating.

[FrankSinatra]

When I was a bit younger I used to be a hopeless romantic and would get hung up on relationships. I obsessed about my current gf at the time in very unealthy ways. I was extremely clingy. The failure of both of my serious LTRs contributed  A LOT to my mental health problems.

Nowadays I am the total opposite. I am totally detached whenever I get "involved" with someone. Furhermore  I am totally scared of commitment. Unfortunately this attitude has caused to break a couple hearts. I really want to have a relationship but at the same time I can't let myself get too attached, and now the whole idea of it scares me now.

[Rocket]

My girlfriend knows I need my space as well as she does, that I'm my own man, not to poke into my private life, and that it's useless to try and change me (which she would never try to change me at all unless it's something bad (like smoking or something) or it's something I can't cope with on my own),... so we love each other for the ways we are.

[Rocket]

So that's a no. I find relationships quite fulfilling. It gives you someone to love, something to hold dear, something to fight and live for, and someone to tell your worries to.

[Aspergers Girl]

Im the same.

Ive not been in a relationship for seven years as the last one was so horrible. Ive tried to start a few relationships online but i found that just the presssure of writing emails and expecting emails caused to much stress and anxiety.

I find life happier and more relaxed when I am on my own and feel I can be myself. Where as when I am in a relationship I feel not so able to be myself and not liked for who i am and a pressure to change. I also feel a pressure to be loving in a way that is not natural for me.

I would not mind a relationship where I saw the person less than once a week and was totally accepted as I was. But Iam not sure that this is reasonable so I think it is better to stay on my own.

Yep.. Although I would prefer no relationship to one in which I saw the person once a week, it's just the status of the relationship that bothers me, friendship would be better. Then you lose friends when they get into a relationship @_@, So I really don't know.

[renaeden]

I am a loner and I am married. It is a very confusing way to be.

[Callaway]

No, not really.

I like being in this relationship.

[lotusblossom]

My relationship with my wife, doesn't tire me. I find it liberating.

wow! how wonderful 

[lotusblossom]

Im the same.

Ive not been in a relationship for seven years as the last one was so horrible. Ive tried to start a few relationships online but i found that just the presssure of writing emails and expecting emails caused to much stress and anxiety.

I find life happier and more relaxed when I am on my own and feel I can be myself. Where as when I am in a relationship I feel not so able to be myself and not liked for who i am and a pressure to change. I also feel a pressure to be loving in a way that is not natural for me.

I would not mind a relationship where I saw the person less than once a week and was totally accepted as I was. But Iam not sure that this is reasonable so I think it is better to stay on my own.

Yep.. Although I would prefer no relationship to one in which I saw the person once a week, it's just the status of the relationship that bothers me, friendship would be better. Then you lose friends when they get into a relationship @_@, So I really don't know.

yes, I think friendships are the way to go but I often loose friends too. Some friends take offence if I dont contact them enough. As well I always say something rude or offensive  I wish people would be more open and say "you did this which annoyed me" so I could say sorry or make it ok, but people tend to just avoid me instead. I think all kinds of relationships are hard .

thanks goodness for forums like this where you can be yourself and not be rejected 

[Aspergers Girl]

Im the same.

Ive not been in a relationship for seven years as the last one was so horrible. Ive tried to start a few relationships online but i found that just the presssure of writing emails and expecting emails caused to much stress and anxiety.

I find life happier and more relaxed when I am on my own and feel I can be myself. Where as when I am in a relationship I feel not so able to be myself and not liked for who i am and a pressure to change. I also feel a pressure to be loving in a way that is not natural for me.

I would not mind a relationship where I saw the person less than once a week and was totally accepted as I was. But Iam not sure that this is reasonable so I think it is better to stay on my own.

Yep.. Although I would prefer no relationship to one in which I saw the person once a week, it's just the status of the relationship that bothers me, friendship would be better. Then you lose friends when they get into a relationship @_@, So I really don't know.

yes, I think friendships are the way to go but I often loose friends too. Some friends take offence if I dont contact them enough. As well I always say something rude or offensive  I wish people would be more open and say "you did this which annoyed me" so I could say sorry or make it ok, but people tend to just avoid me instead. I think all kinds of relationships are hard .

thanks goodness for forums like this where you can be yourself and not be rejected 

Yeah I think mine do too. Sometimes I don't reply fast enough.  I lost a friend recently because he sent me this text that put me on the spot then called himself horrible things and I didn't know what to say, everything I said would have been wrong and he hasn't spoken to me in about 10 months.

[Aaryk Noctivagus]

My relationship with my wife, doesn't tire me. I find it liberating.

wow! how wonderful 

We've been married for 20 years now. Irene is great

[Tom]

Personally i prefer being in a relationship  . Seems to take for ever to find the right person tho  .   Last one went for 3 years . Was great  , someone to open up to  , someone that I wern't worried about being judged by . She had to move on tho for her own personal reasons tho  .