The impossibility of making friends.

[MM]

I dont think its impossible to make friends but I thinks its difficult as a person with aspergers/HFA to make the kind of friends that I want.  Sometimes I just have to make do with what your givin.  But like anything I accept that I have a problem limitations and learn how to improve on my limitations.  Also I have a higher power I accept my limitations and often call out to god (yes I am big god botherer)  That I am always calling out to and it seems to guide me.  Having a higher power of your own understanding can be of great help if you are not interested then  there is plenty of books on body language facial expressions and other things out there.  There are also understanding people and accepting people out there and there are other functioning people with the same problems. Dont give up on finding your friends I thought it would be impossible to do but I have succeded.  I Just dont put any expectations on my friends.  One step at a time though.  I have learnt much through my life but I still have much to learn.

[TheException]

I've always been able to make a small number of friends quite quickly.

[bucephalus]

I seem to have my own unwritten religion, it's quite strict really.  I do only what I'd expect done to me but I accept that we can all be hypocrites from time to time.  I go out of my way to make people's lives easy and fun and I think it pays off. I also don't think that I'm better than anyone else but in turn don't think anyone's better than me either.  This kinda trivialises my condition really

[Felgen]

Keeping friends is a lot harder than making them, in my honest opinion.

[Aspergers Girl]

Keeping friends is a lot harder than making them, in my honest opinion.

I facebook "like" this. It's like a constant energy drain trying to keep them.

[gcramer789]

hey buddy what are you talking about
Is there anything what can stop making friends?
shake your mind and jump to catch friend///////
that's all
                           Thank you very much

[zenemu]

I find it relatively easy to make friends, unfortunately I tend to get distracted by other things and/or find it too exhausting to really maintain those kinds of relationships long term.

[rhiannon0828]

It's really hard for me to make friends. I always wonder what their motivation is, too. Sometimes it seems like they only want to be friends if they think it will benefit them in some way, and sometimes ( I hate this) it seems like they are only trying to be my friend out of pity, like I'm some kind of a charity case--look at poor rhiannon, she has no friends. Maybe I can fix her!

[NatureFantasy]

I facebook "like" this. It's like a constant energy drain trying to keep them.

I fully agree.

[shanshan195]

Keeping friends is a lot harder than making them, in my honest opinion.

i thought i was the only one that felt like that ...

[Sin-ka-lip]

Friends, what's that? People think I'm too weird or they are just too busy. I also "tell it like it is" which I guess turns alot of people off. I also like to be alone alot anyway.

So I tend to be friends with animals... parrots are nice as they will say stuff back LOL. But try being buddies with an australian cattle dog, they act more like cats, and the one I have now has autistic behaviors.

[Aspergers Girl]

I don't think I've done anything with anyone other than my sister for several months now 

[MM]

Are there any aspie support groups near you fiona?   I find it harder as a more socially capable autistic its hard to keep up with nt friends.  Sure I can do it for a while but I burn out and then they wonder whats going on with you.  I like hanging around other crazies like me

[makuranososhi]

I have many acquaintances; I even have a fair number of friends.  But part of that is if you made it through the process, I generally consider you to be a worthwhile human being worth holding onto and helping if I can.


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